Love keeps no record of wrongs. It’s simple and it’s scripture.
Keeping score in marriage is the quickest way to ruin a good thing. When you do that, you hold yourself back from loving recklessly. You also are holding yourself back from the amount of love you are able to receive.
I get it. Your spouse is going to hurt you. That’s what happens when you put two imperfect people in close proximity to each other for forever. However, if you and your spouse are both believers, than you are both covered by the same blood and the same grace that gives you the power to forgive.
Your job is not to be your spouse’s Holy Spirit. Your job is to love unconditionally, forgive quickly, and go before the thrown of the King for your spouse. Everything else you leave at the feet of your good, good Father. He will restore everything that was one broken.
So forgive quickly. Remember how much you have been forgiven of. Remember that it was your sins that nailed Jesus to the cross. Then, in grace, move forward in the freedom that can only come when you love like you’ve never been hurt before.