How will you celebrate Valentine’s Day with your spouse?
Where we live, enjoying a quiet, romantic dinner at a restaurant on Valentine’s Day is basically impossible unless reservations are made a month in advance—and neither of us is quite that organized.
So our Valentine’s panic usually goes something like this:
“OH MY WORD! TOMORROW’S VALENTINE’S DAY!”
Cue both of us running to Walmart to grab cards and candy for the kids… and for each other.
And honestly?
That’s okay. I like our style.
Why We Skip the Crowds on Valentine’s Day
Overstuffed restaurants.
Insane traffic.
Long waits and rushed meals.
Insane traffic.
Long waits and rushed meals.
It’s crazy.
And I’d much rather… stay home.
So instead of fighting crowds, my husband and I stick to a simple Valentine’s Day tradition that’s become one of our favorites.
Our Go-To Valentine’s Night Tradition
We eat chocolate we purchased in a hurry, give each other back massages, and relax together.
(Okay—maybe not the dramatic staring into each other’s eyes 😄—but we definitely go for the chocolate and back massages!)
Chocolate and a back massage with the one I love… who could ask for more on Valentine’s Day?
I’m Picky About the Details (For Good Reason)
I am particular about two things:
1. The Chocolate
Give me dark, salted Ghirardelli.
No substitutes. It’s the best.
2. The Massage Oil
This matters more than people realize.
The oil is going to be absorbed through my skin—and potentially my whole body (assuming the kids don’t have a crisis in the middle of our fun!).
So no sticky, toxic goop for me. I want something smooth, warm, and pure.
Our Favorite Massage Oil for Valentine’s Day
Our current favorite is Ortho Ease by Young Living, with a few extra drops of Lavender essential oil added in.
Honestly, Ortho Ease doesn’t need anything added—it’s already amazing—but we add Lavender just for fun.
- My husband loves the smell
- I love the warmth and gentle tingly feeling
- Lavender keeps me comfortable when my back is exposed
It’s relaxing, soothing, and just feels… special.
Keeping the Spark Alive in Marriage
That’s a little peek into how we usually spend Valentine’s Day—or any romantic night together.
And yes, even after:
- 25 years of marriage
- 11 kids
- Multiple pets
- Too many loads of laundry to count
…it’s still important to make time for each other.
It doesn’t have to be fancy.
It doesn’t have to be expensive.
It doesn’t even have to be Valentine’s Day.
It doesn’t have to be expensive.
It doesn’t even have to be Valentine’s Day.
Whether it’s a holiday or just your weekly date night, intentional time together matters.
Simple Traditions Can Mean Everything
Keeping passion alive in marriage often looks like small, meaningful choices—choosing connection over chaos and presence over perfection.
So tell me…
Do you have any special Valentine’s traditions?
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